Recently, I went on a trip to the beautiful state of Colorado, and it was exactly what I needed. I got to hike some of the most beautiful mountains I’ve ever seen and listen to the sound of waterfalls crashing against piles of rocks. Living in a city can be hard when you love nature and peace and quiet as much as I do. I went on this trip for clarity on certain aspects of my life. I also started going to therapy, something at which I never actually expected to ever get the balls to do. It was one of the hardest decisions in my life, but I’ve needed to start it for a long time now. Nothing terrifies me more than talking about my feelings and past experiences in my life that have hurt me. But as someone who takes such great care of their body physically, you can’t forget about what’s most important, your mental health. A healthy body is nothing without a healthy mind.
I’ve been writing a book for some time now, about my life. From the time I was born through the end of high school. I started writing it back when I was in high school and what’s crazy to me is how much I’ve grown over the years. Every time I go to revise it, my outlook on the situation’s change. Back then, something that may have hurt me, I’m now extremely thankful for. They always say you can’t change the past, which is true, but I’ve come to realize, our view on it can. Which in hindsight, I think is more powerful. I believe that everything in our lives happens for a reason, whether it’s good or bad. We don’t always get to choose what happens to us, but we do always have the power to choose how it affects us. Recently, I’ve felt very hopeless which isn’t like me. I’m typically very optimistic and cheerful. But sometimes things happen and dim our spirits a little bit. We start to clear our focus on all the negative things that have happened in our lives and blind ourselves from all the positive. Today, I’m here to tell you that it does get better. Whether we want to own up to our problems or not, remember you always have the power over your own life. No one can take your spirit away from you, unless you let them. Don’t let the negative things in life take you down, instead use them to remember why you always get back up. Life is truly what you make of it. Instead of blaming everyone and everything around you for your problems, remember that you have the power. Blaming everything except yourself isn’t going to help you. You are in control of your life. Stop focusing on the things you can’t control and start focusing on the things you can. Expect more from yourself and less from others. That’s what will bring you happiness.
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Life has a funny way of showing us what we need to hear. Of course, you always want to believe you're right, but no one is perfect. I used to hate reading things that contradicted the way I thought, and I've started to realize that you will never learn anything that way. If you only view things the way you wish to view them, then you're never really seeing, you're imagining. Life isn't about being right all the time; it's about growing and learning from your mistakes. I am someone who loves to read and listen to podcasts that are educational, and I listened to this one podcast the other day saying, if you constantly blame your past for the way you react, you're still living in the past, and you'll never grow. I sat down and really started to think about that. The past is the past. Yes, it develops you into the person you are today, but it doesn’t define you. You always have a choice of whether to let something bother you or not. Life isn't about being perfect; it's about being you.
I'm the type of person that never reaches out to people, whether it's to hang out or just say hi. I've lost a lot of friends that way. I believe if I never initiate something, then I can never be hurt by rejection. And I used to think that’s just how I am. It was, but that doesn’t mean I have to act lonely and depressed for the rest of my life. Without realizing it, I was the type to always blame others for the shitty things that happened in my life, when most of the time it was myself that needed to be blamed. I never wanted to take responsibility for the negative things that have occurred in my life. But to grow as a person, you have to have an open mind and be able to view yourself from others’ perspectives. You’re not perfect, no one is. Life is about embracing your imperfections, whether it be the way you eat cereal by pouring the milk first, or it be the way your face wrinkles up when you smile. First off, I just want to remind everyone that wrinkles ARE NORMAL lol. Too many people are trying to look like barbie dolls when we are meant to be imperfectly humans. Your insecurities are what make you unique. I used to think having small boobs wasn’t feminine, but the more I grew older, the more I realized that’s just the way society views females. Just because one female has bigger breasts than me, doesn’t make her more feminine, it just means she has bigger breasts. Too many people get sucked into a persona of thinking they need to change to fit into an ideal standard. That “ideal standard” y’all are trying to achieve, is a societal viewpoint created by men. Again, life isn't about being perfect, it’s about being you. The characteristics and qualities you bring to the table are what make you so special. We all need to work on accepting ourselves and stop blaming others for our problems. Life is about growth, not controversy. Now go live your life the way you want to and stop imagining what you could be and open your eyes to YOUR potential. Anyone can smile through the pain.
Life is different for each and every one of us. You grow up being told that someone’s always got it worse than you, But that shouldn’t take away from the pain you feel. What hurts one person, can be a breeze for another. Always believing someone has it worse than you, Makes you think that what’s going on in your life doesn’t matter. It’s okay to be sad about getting a C on a paper. It’s okay to be happy about getting a C. It’s okay to be sad knowing someone took advantage of you. It’s okay to be happy knowing it wasn’t worse. It’s okay to be sad when you get pregnant unexpected. It’s okay to be happy knowing you’re having a child. It’s okay to be sad when your parents get divorced. It’s okay to be happy seeing your parents move on and be happy. We all view experiences in life differently. We all view pain in different ways. It’s easy to push people away, When people don’t see your worth. It’s easy to to hide your emotions, When you’re used to dealing with everything on your own. It’s easy to say people’s comments don’t get to you, When you tell yourself it’s some low life living in their parents basement. It’s easy to say you don’t need anyone in your life, When you grew up dealing with everything on your own. It’s easy to act tough all the time, When you’ve always fought your own battles. It’s easy to be closed off, When no ones cared to listen to your side of the story. It’s easy to smile through the pain, When you were always told your problems don’t matter. It’s easier to push away your demons, Than to face them head on. Life isn’t supposed to be simple. There’s no right or wrong way that you should react to a situation. Everyone’s different. You’re not allowed to say whether or not you hurt someone. How they feel is valid and should be heard. People have feelings. We aren’t robots for a reason. We feel pain just as easily as we feel joy. There’s always gonna be someone in this world that has it worse than you, But that doesn’t change the fact that you feel hurt. You don’t need to hide your pain because you feel it’s a burden on others. You don’t need to hide your pain because you feel like it’s not bad enough. You can’t hide your pain to pretend it never happened. You can’t hide your pain to allow others can be happy. You’re allowed to express how you feel. Whether others understand or not, Your feelings are valid. Your feelings matter. Hey guys, I know it’s been awhile. I started this blog back in March, hoping that I would be more open with myself and the world about who I am and what I do. I wrote one blog and kind of freaked out after my family saw it. I deleted it and now I’m back again today. I am officially an entrepreneur now, living what is soon to be my best life. It’s amazing how much can change in a week, even just one day! My life has completely changed in the span of less than a month. I make more money than I ever thought possible, I get to spend my days how I design them to be, I can travel whenever and wherever I want! It’s so crazy to me, yet it still doesn’t seem real. I’ll go to the store, still feeling like I have a budget. I have to remind myself that it’s okay to buy the fruit that’s 50 cents more. But, even though I am in a good financial state, money doesn’t buy happiness. Yes, it can help with certain struggles and make some things in life a lot easier, but overall, it doesn’t make you happy. I am someone who has a hard time letting people into my life. That comes from a lot of route issues, I have a hard time talking about. Everyone in my life I’ve ever cared about and tried to receive love from, could never reciprocate how I felt towards them. I always caught myself trying to be someone I wasn’t, to please the needs of someone else. I learned the hard way that you’re never going to be happy living for someone else’s life, always chasing to be something you’re not. You were born the way you were for a reason, don’t let anyone try to change that. The point of this is that you can be the richest person in the world, but without anyone by your side to share it, it isn’t worth it. Having a support team, full of people who care about you, is what makes you happy. Not your annual income.
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